The Risk Of Real & Vulnerability

“If something inside of you is real, we will probably find it interesting, and it will probably be universal. So you must risk placing real emotion at the center of your work. Write straight into the emotional center of things. Write toward vulnerability. Risk being unliked. Tell the truth as you understand it. If you’re a writer you have a moral obligation to do this. And it is a revolutionary act—truth is always subversive.” – Anne Lamott


I️ try to keep it real here for y’all. And sometimes things are too dark & too personal that I just can’t share. At least not while I’m walking through it. Usually when I come out of something that tough I feel more free to do so. Eventually.

Then sometimes I almost have to write about it while I’m walking it out. And then there are those things that I only talk to God about because it’s just too ugly to expose to anyone else. He sees it all anyway. There’s no hiding anything with Him. And there alone is my Safe-est Space anyway.

Why is vulnerability so hard? What are we so afraid of? The very worst that can happen if we expose ourselves & are vulnerable with another human is that they might hurt us. The truth is we are all going to hurt one another at some point anyway. Because we are human. And imperfect. I would rather risk love & go through the hard stuff than to have no love at all.

I’ve lived in that cold place of disconnection & fear. There’s no life there. Not. At. All.

It’s crazy the walls we build to keep others out while all the while screaming for anyone to love us, to notice us – while we hide behind them.

And yet they cannot possibly reach us that way. I️ know it all too well.

Be real, be authentic, stay soft, stay open- & take chances. Leaps of faith are not called that for no reason.

I’m preaching to myself.

Much love y’all,

Bonnie ❤️

“Owning our story can be hard but not nearly as difficult as spending our lives running from it. Embracing our vulnerabilities is risky but not nearly as dangerous as giving up on love and belonging and joy—the experiences that make us the most vulnerable. Only when we are brave enough to explore the darkness will we discover the infinite power of our light.” – Brené Brown

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